Monthly Archives: August 2011

Free Your Mind

Have you ever held a grudge against someone or are you holding onto one now?  I believe, everyone has experienced some form of it in their lifetime, whether rightfully or for the wrong reasons.  The funny thing about grudges is, it’s self inflicting.  You are the only one experiencing the pain attached with the grudge.  Research has shown that someone harboring unforgiveness shows more signs of higher blood pressure, heart disease, lowered immune system, depression, anxiety, and chronic pain, to name a few.  Grudges birth bitterness and those roots run deep into our spiritual, emotional and physical well being.

                I remember times that I’ve held onto something, recently and in the past; it eats away at you.  You have no peace and it keeps you hostage to those feelings of resentment and bitterness.  You become numb to anything positive.  It keeps you chained down to where you are the victim.  Bitterness becomes a well worn path into your mind that leads to your heart, hurting only yourself.  It makes you preoccupied with negativity, which in turn keeps you from seeing anything positive.

                Grudges destroy relationships.  It keeps you from possibly reconciling with the person you feel has wronged you.  But, it also effects your loved ones; those who are close to you.  Why?  Grudges keep you from becoming who you really are.  Do you remember those chains of negativity and preoccupation with the past that I mentioned in the previous paragraph?  As long as you’re chained to a grudge you cannot enjoy peace and happiness from within.  When we hold onto grudges it allows a self inflicted disease to grow into our heart.  This disease is unforgiveness.  The heart and brain are connected.  What you think upon effects what you feel emotionally, physically, and spiritually.  If something eats at your mind; it eats at your heart as well. 

                What is the cure for these grudges? Forgiveness is the key.  You have to let go of feelings that someone has wronged you.  You have to remove victim mentality from your mind.  I know it’s not that easy, but if you take steps toward forgiveness, you will feel the handcuffs start to loosen.  You may or may not feel you need to go to the person who has wronged you.  That is something you have to seek within yourself.  Pray about it, if you are a believer and listen to what God leads you to do.  Imagine yourself in the other person’s shoes; this may help you to understand where they are coming from.  Talk with someone you trust who is objective.  Balance your emotions and begin to see the positives in your life, the things that you are thankful for.  Forgiveness leads to peace, happiness, joy, healthier relationships, better spiritual/mental well being.  It lowers your blood pressure, lessens tension and stress.  It aids depression and makes you more compassionate and understanding of others.

                So, remove the rope that’s kept you tied down.  You tied the knots.  Stand up and let the rope unravel from you.  Begin to feel the freedom of forgiveness in your life.

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Posted by on August 21, 2011 in Health


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Electronic Hoarding Begins

I have a confession to make.
I’m a hoarder of musings, writings, thoughts, cards, letters or anything
that contains words.  Most of my
collection are my own private journals, poems, stories, and attempted
writings.  I have boxes of such things in the attic, stuffed in drawers, or piled upon the computer desk.  Why I have kept all of this stuff, I do not
know. With the cards, letters and journals it’s simply for sentimental reasons.
I’ve only shared these things with a
few people in my life.  But, the majority
has been read only by me as I write them or reread them.

I believe my husband has inadvertently
introduced me to the world of blogging so that this paper collection of mine
will start to cease.  What better
solution for a writing hoarder than to introduce publishing her random thoughts
to a vast audience who may or may not see what she has to say.  That way everything is out of sight, out of
mind….yet still accessible.  It’s not as
if I haven’t stored writings on the computer in the past.  My document file is pretty full, but to tell
the truth anytime I’ve saved anything on the computer, I’ve printed out a copy
as well.  Maybe it’s my distrust in
technology for storing my personal data.
You never know when the hard drive will decide to bite the dust.

Yes, I know blogging has been around
for a pretty good while.  Just ask my
husband and he’ll tell you I’m overly cautious about trying out anything new
when it comes to technology.  In the same
breath, he will also tell you that once I do try it out I fall in love with
it.  Take for instance when the Kindle
first came out.  He, being a tech guru,
tells me how much I would love this gadget.
That it is something that I would definitely want.  I snarled up my nose and insisted that
holding an actual book could never be replaced by some thin electronic
gadget.  It just wouldn’t have the same
kind of feel and I wasn’t interested at all.
Needless to say, he couldn’t help himself.  He knew without a doubt that I would fall in
love with Kindle.  So, a few years back
when Kindle was brand new, he ordered one for me for Christmas.  I didn’t get it that Christmas because it was
on backorder.  Of course, he didn’t tell
me I was getting one anyway because I didn’t ask for it.  My birthday is in April.  I think he finally received the Kindle the
end of February or first of March.  So,
he waited until my birthday to give it to me.
I opened the present and put on a fake grin when I saw what it was.  This was going to replace my books sitting in
bookshelves?  I pulled out the gadget and
when I did, I saw cords.  Cords used to
make me uneasy.  I plug that where and to
what?  I questioned him on what if I ran
out of space, or if the book I ordered got lost, and how big of a learning
curve is this gadget?  He knows my patience
with learning anything new, I have none.
He turned it on for me and showed me how to purchase books in the
store.  Needless to say, he was right; I
fell in love with it and wouldn’t even think about parting from it now.

So now this paper trail I have
created all of my life will slowly creep onto the internet saving space in my
home but polluting the rest of the internet.
You can thank my husband for that!

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Posted by on August 19, 2011 in Writing


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My family went biking this past weekend. We had my niece with us. We biked to Chestnut Creek Falls. I love waterfalls and wanted to see them and get into the water as well. I am a water and nature fanatic, so anytime I get to see an area I haven’t explored, I get very excited. Water has always calmed my spirit as well. In front of the falls, I noticed the water looked pretty deep. So, we kept a little distance from them because both my son and my niece, cannot swim. My patient husband stayed at the shoreline taking pictures. He had on jeans and really isn’t as enthused over the water as me. He knows how much I enjoy it though and always gives me room to explore the environment. I wasn’t satisfied with standing 10 feet in front of the falls. So, I decided to go around the side of the falls and find a way to the top, to get a better view. My son and my neice were a little curious too, so they followed me. I waded waist deep to the corner of the rock. I told the kids to stay put while I checked out the climb and made sure it was going to be safe. I climbed to the area I could cross. Water rushed between a crevice and the rocks were slippery were you had to cross. I stepped carefully over the 2 ft crevice. I climbed a little further until I was on top of the waterfall. I wanted to explore more, but knew the kids were waiting for me. So, I turned back around, climbed back down, and crossed the crevice. I told them I didn’t think it was safe for them to cross the crevice. Warren wanted to see the view, so I told them ok, but you have to be careful crossing and make sure you have your footing. We’ll do it one at a time. My son stood at the crossing and with me ahead of him. I tried to instruct him exactly how to do it, but he stepped quicker than he should. He missed the other rock and his foot went into the crevice, quickly sweeping the rest of him into the fall. I quickly reached my hand out to him, grasping his left arm. The water pulled him and I had no choice but to jump into the crevice and hold on to him. The water gushed over his face and I saw he was panicking. He had his other arm braced on the side of the rock and I pulled it away so that we could let the water carry us to the bottom.
Last night when I went to bed, I replayed the incident in my head. I then felt like God was showing me that was a picture of Him with someone who lost their footing or stepped a little too quickly. It was picture of rescue, God’s grace, and mercy. God doesn’t want us to drown when we mess up. He doesn’t look down on us, shaking his head, watching us about drown in our mistakes. He simply gets down in the crevice with us, holds on to us, lets us know that it’s going to be all right, even if we feel scared and like our life is coming to an end. He rides it out with us and in the end doesn’t remind us of our mistake but celebrates the fact that we rode that wave out.

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Posted by on August 15, 2011 in Spiritual Reflections


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