Have you ever held a grudge against someone or are you holding onto one now? I believe, everyone has experienced some form of it in their lifetime, whether rightfully or for the wrong reasons. The funny thing about grudges is, it’s self inflicting. You are the only one experiencing the pain attached with the grudge. Research has shown that someone harboring unforgiveness shows more signs of higher blood pressure, heart disease, lowered immune system, depression, anxiety, and chronic pain, to name a few. Grudges birth bitterness and those roots run deep into our spiritual, emotional and physical well being.
I remember times that I’ve held onto something, recently and in the past; it eats away at you. You have no peace and it keeps you hostage to those feelings of resentment and bitterness. You become numb to anything positive. It keeps you chained down to where you are the victim. Bitterness becomes a well worn path into your mind that leads to your heart, hurting only yourself. It makes you preoccupied with negativity, which in turn keeps you from seeing anything positive.
Grudges destroy relationships. It keeps you from possibly reconciling with the person you feel has wronged you. But, it also effects your loved ones; those who are close to you. Why? Grudges keep you from becoming who you really are. Do you remember those chains of negativity and preoccupation with the past that I mentioned in the previous paragraph? As long as you’re chained to a grudge you cannot enjoy peace and happiness from within. When we hold onto grudges it allows a self inflicted disease to grow into our heart. This disease is unforgiveness. The heart and brain are connected. What you think upon effects what you feel emotionally, physically, and spiritually. If something eats at your mind; it eats at your heart as well.
What is the cure for these grudges? Forgiveness is the key. You have to let go of feelings that someone has wronged you. You have to remove victim mentality from your mind. I know it’s not that easy, but if you take steps toward forgiveness, you will feel the handcuffs start to loosen. You may or may not feel you need to go to the person who has wronged you. That is something you have to seek within yourself. Pray about it, if you are a believer and listen to what God leads you to do. Imagine yourself in the other person’s shoes; this may help you to understand where they are coming from. Talk with someone you trust who is objective. Balance your emotions and begin to see the positives in your life, the things that you are thankful for. Forgiveness leads to peace, happiness, joy, healthier relationships, better spiritual/mental well being. It lowers your blood pressure, lessens tension and stress. It aids depression and makes you more compassionate and understanding of others.
So, remove the rope that’s kept you tied down. You tied the knots. Stand up and let the rope unravel from you. Begin to feel the freedom of forgiveness in your life.